Thoughts Relating to Some Homosexual Viewpoints by Randy Baker

1. Is God’s Word still valid? Do we have it today? Is it just a collection of stories written by men who put in their own ideas of what is right? Is it out-dated?

¨ Psalms 119:89 says God’s Word is established in heaven
¨ Isaiah 40:8 says the word of our God shall stand forever.
¨ Matthew 5:18 says God’s word shall in no wise pass away
¨ 1 Peter 1:23-5 the word of God which liveth and abideth for ever.
¨ 2 Timothy 3:16-17 God’s scriptures furnish us all we need for salvation
¨ John 12:48 the word shall judge him in the last day.

¨ 2 Peter 1:2 Grace to you and peace be multiplied in the knowledge of God and of Jesus our Lord; 3seeing that his divine power hath granted unto us all things that pertain unto life and godliness, through the knowledge of him that called us by his own glory and virtue; 4whereby he hath granted unto us his precious and exceeding great promises; that through these ye may become partakers of the divine nature, having escaped from the corruption that is in that world by lust. Two things are seen in this passage. First, God gave us all we need through His word. Second, it is through His word and the promises in it, that we can escape the world and its eventual punishment.

There are many other passages that could be referred to, but these show that God claims He can preserve His word and that we have the truth. Also that this same set of truths will be the standard for our judgment day.

If one has a belief in God, it can start by observing the evidence around us, in His creation, that he exists (Romans 1:20). However, we can only grow spiritually based on His scriptures. If one believes in God but doubts His scriptures, he doubts the God who claimed to be able to keep them and provide them for us so that we could be what He wants us to be. Either He is REALLY God, and we should become slaves to the righteousness defined in His Word, or He is a liar and only worthy of our mockery. It is one or the other. If He is God, but can’t do what He says, then we can have no confidence that He can save us – we should give up on Him. When we choose to believe in God, we also choose to accept His words and they say we have the truth.

There can be no middle position which claims it is possible to believe in God without obeying the words He has given. God actually speaks toward the notion that men could serve Him by doing what they thought, or felt, were the right things: Proverbs 16:25 There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, But the end thereof are the ways of death. There are many warnings similar to this one – God knew we would want to do things our way and He will not accept us if we have not humbled our wills to His.

2. God made me want to do these sinful things. He made me this way.

God defines homosexuality as sinful in Romans 1:26, Galatians 5:19-21,1 Corinthians 6:9.

God made man sinless. In Genesis 1:31, after creating man and woman on the sixth day, He said it was “very good.” He did not create something with untamable evil desire.

Matthew 18:2 And he called to him a little child, and set him in the midst of them, 3and said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye turn, and become as little children, ye shall in no wise enter into the kingdom of heaven. Again, God made us pure. Where we go from there is up to each of us.

God defined homosexuality as sin – and He expects us to deal with this sin as with any other. Romans 6:12 Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey the lusts thereof: 13neither present your members unto sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves unto God, as alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness unto God . . .. 16Know ye not, that to whom ye present yourselves as servants unto obedience, his servants ye are whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness?

God expects us to control ourselves and not to be brought under the control of anything or anyone around us. 1 Corinthians 6:12 . . . I will not be brought under the power of any.

God says we are able to handle our challenges against sin. He has made sure that we indeed can. We all have these struggles and the responsible to overcome them. The only thing that varies is the specific sins to which each of us has a greater temptation. That varies for each of us, but God’s promise of a way out does not. 1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as man can bear: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation make also the way of escape, that ye may be able to endure it.

God’s original intent has always been clear. One can just consider the design of the male and female and know this is the case. He also states it for us. Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. The desire of a man for another man, or a woman for another woman did not come from Him.

3. How does one repent? Do I have to leave this way of life to be acceptable in God’s sight?

¨ Being sorry and wishing for different circumstances is not God’s definition of repentance. 2 Corinthians 7:9 I now rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye were made sorry unto repentance; for ye were made sorry after a godly sort, that ye might suffer loss by us in nothing. 10For godly sorrow worketh repentance unto salvation, a repentance which bringeth no regret: but the sorrow of the world worketh death. Sorrow leads to repentance, but is not repentance by itself. The repentance that God wants is being sorrow and then changing our lives to no longer live in that sin.

¨ Romans 6:1 What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin, that grace may abound? 2God forbid. We who died to sin, how shall we any longer live therein? Here He just states the obvious: if we have decided to follow Him, we can no longer live in those things that He says are wrong. Leaving that life where we followed after sin is the evidence of repentance that others will be able to see.

Matthew 18:2 And he called to him a little child, and set him in the midst of them, 3and said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye turn, and become as little children, ye shall in no wise enter into the kingdom of heaven. It was not good enough to be sorry for the past, or wish to be doing better, Jesus said except ye turn again, and become…. Clearly, change is expected. Others can clearly and easily see if we have repented of a continuing sin that we are living in.

Yes, others will know if the sin of homosexuality has been repented of.

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Litigation between brethren by Bill Blue

1 Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unrighteous, and not before the saints? 2 Do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world will be judged by you, are you unworthy to judge the smallest matters? 3 Do you not know that we shall judge angels? How much more, things that pertain to this life? 4 If then you have judgments concerning things pertaining to this life, do you appoint those who are least esteemed by the church to judge? 5 I say this to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you, not even one, who will be able to judge between his brethren? 6 But brother goes to law against brother, and that before unbelievers! 7 Now therefore, it is already an utter failure for you that you go to law against one another. Why do you not rather accept wrong? Why do you not rather let yourselves be cheated? 8 No, you yourselves do wrong and cheat, and you do these things to your brethren!

9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

1 Corinthians 6:1-10 (NKJV)

Being both a trial lawyer and a Christian, Paul's message to the church in Corinth about litigation between brethren has always been of special interest to me. Being a Christian, I have always understood that Paul wrote by divine inspiration (1 Thess. 3:16-17). Thus, it is not simply Paul who has condemned litigation between brethren, but the Holy Spirit (2 Pet. 1:20-21).

The admonition in 1 Corinthians 6:1-10 is universally applicable (1 Cor. 1:1-2). Thus, it applies not only to the First Century members of the church in Corinth, but to you and me as well.

Paul begins by warning, "Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unrighteous, and not before the saints?" Paul's use of the word "dare," appears to suggest that by "going to law" against brethren, one tempts God.

Paul does not say, however, that Christians are not subject to the judicial systems of governing authorities (cf. Rom. 13:1-7), nor does he prohibit the use of the system altogether. Rather, Paul is criticizing the use of these systems by brethren to resolve disputes between brethren. Paul himself exercised the rights to trial he enjoyed as a Roman citizen (Acts 18:12ff.; 25:16). Thus, the problem is not resort to the system for any reason, but resort to the system when God has prescribed an alternative procedure for resolving disputes (Matt. 18:15-20).

Stated differently, the problem is not the courts, but the Christians. As one writer has noted:

Lawsuits are the world's way of settling disputes legally. The issue here is not
the civil right of brethren to sue one another at law, but the teaching of
Christ regarding the settling of disputes between brethren. All that is legal
before civil authority is not lawful for the people of God.1

Paul seems to echo the notion that the problem was not the courts themselves, but the Christians at Corinth when he writes that the courts were being used by brethren to wrong and cheat each other (vs. 8).

The Scriptures implicitly acknowledge the right, indeed the obligation, to submit to the judicial system to accomplish a divorce when a divorce is permitted by the Scriptures (compare Matt. 19:1-9 with Rom. 13:1-7 and 1 Pet. 1:13-14). This must be so where the Scriptures require submission to the lawful authorities, and the authorities regulate marriage and divorce. This does not authorize Christians to divorce for any reason permitted by governing authorities. Instead, this simply means that where Scriptural authority for a divorce is present, Christians must accomplish the divorce through the procedures promulgated by governing authorities.

Similarly, Christians subject to criminal prosecution, however innocent, must submit to the criminal justice system governing their prosecution (Rom. 13:1-7, 1 Pet. 1:13-14).

Note that litigation between believer and non-believer is not prohibited. Nonetheless, the right of a Christian to avail himself of the judicial process against non-Christians is still governed by all other Scriptures governing Christian conduct. Freedom to sue is not a license to behave in an unchristian-like manner.

There are even situations where resort to civil court between brethren may not only be permissible, but appropriate. For instance, as brother Kimbrough writes about situations where liability insurance is applicable:

[Imagine] A brother is injured by the negligence of another and the
one who causes the injury acknowledges his fault. He is willing to grant his
brother full compensation, but must go to law to obtain it.2

Of course, in most such instances, the offending brother need only admit fault, and inform his insurance carrier. Occasionally, a lawsuit will be required when the insurance company refuses to pay what the injured party believes is necessary to compensate him for his losses. In such cases, the lawsuit may not violate Scripture where there is no animosity or gamesmanship between the brethren.

Despite the exceptions, impermissible litigation between Christians is not to be taken likely. Paul describes this conduct as shameful (vs. 5) and an utter failure (vs. 7).

Instead of litigation, Paul suggests two alternatives: (1) submit the dispute to other brethren (vss. 2-5), or (2) accept wrong (vs. 7).

Simply put, brethren should not sue each other, but should seek the counsel of an impartial third brother to help resolve the dispute.

Christians who sue one another have a bigger problem with Christ than they do with each other. For Paul does not give the Corinthians a new commandment, but rather simply echoes Christ who said for Christians to seek a third Christian to help resolve disputes (Matt. 18:15-20).

Nor did Paul say anything new when he suggested that it is better for Christians to accept loss instead of suing one another because Christ Himself said:

"But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also."

Matthew 5:39-40.

Christians who ignore the words of Christ and Paul forget what it means to be a Christian (see John 15:1-11; 1 John 2:3-11). As Kimbrough said, "Lawsuits are the world's way of settling disputes legally," but not the way of Christians or the church. A brother who sues another brother shames himself (1 Cor. 6:5), is an "utter failure," (i.e., defeated already), and shames the church by taking the dispute to unbelievers (see 1 Cor. 6:6). For what must the world think of us when it sees us behave so poorly, when we claim to love one another?

Sometimes litigiousness can be a collective problem, especially in the realm of church splits. Such a problem arose in 1902 when the church in Newbern, Tennessee split over the introduction of an organ into the worship service. Once brethren decided to split, the next issue became who was entitled to the congregation's building, the "pro-organ" brethren, or the "anti-organ" brethren"? Answering this question, David Lipscomb counseled the anti-organ brethren against going to law over the building when he wrote:

The strife and contention of a lawsuit will result in a spiritual decension and loss that cannot be compensated for by any pecuniary of property gains. It would be better and more in harmony with the spirit of the religion of Christ to quietly and earnestly protest against the wrong, but bear it for Christ's sake and seek another place of worship and diligently and meekly strive
to build up a faithful church in Newbern.3

Brother Lipscomb appears to have given wise counsel. When we are wronged, we should stop and reflect before acting, and then seek to act in a manner befitting our calling. Remembering, all the while, that Christ, our example, "who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously." (1 Peter 2:23). Therefore, let us remember Christ in "whatever [we] do in word or deed," including dispute resolution and litigation, and "do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him." (Col. 3:17)

Endnotes
1 Earl Kimbrough, "Lawsuits Among Brethren," Christ and Culture at Corinth: Lessons From First Corinthians 118 (Florida College, February 5-8, 1996).
2 Ibid. at 119.
3 Ibid. at 124.

Litigation between brethren by Bill Blue

1 Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unrighteous, and not before the saints? 2 Do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world will be judged by you, are you unworthy to judge the smallest matters? 3 Do you not know that we shall judge angels? How much more, things that pertain to this life? 4 If then you have judgments concerning things pertaining to this life, do you appoint those who are least esteemed by the church to judge? 5 I say this to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you, not even one, who will be able to judge between his brethren? 6 But brother goes to law against brother, and that before unbelievers! 7 Now therefore, it is already an utter failure for you that you go to law against one another. Why do you not rather accept wrong? Why do you not rather let yourselves be cheated? 8 No, you yourselves do wrong and cheat, and you do these things to your brethren!

9 Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, 10 nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.

1 Corinthians 6:1-10 (NKJV)

Being both a trial lawyer and a Christian, Paul's message to the church in Corinth about litigation between brethren has always been of special interest to me. Being a Christian, I have always understood that Paul wrote by divine inspiration (1 Thess. 3:16-17). Thus, it is not simply Paul who has condemned litigation between brethren, but the Holy Spirit (2 Pet. 1:20-21).

The admonition in 1 Corinthians 6:1-10 is universally applicable (1 Cor. 1:1-2). Thus, it applies not only to the First Century members of the church in Corinth, but to you and me as well.

Paul begins by warning, "Dare any of you, having a matter against another, go to law before the unrighteous, and not before the saints?" Paul's use of the word "dare," appears to suggest that by "going to law" against brethren, one tempts God.

Paul does not say, however, that Christians are not subject to the judicial systems of governing authorities (cf. Rom. 13:1-7), nor does he prohibit the use of the system altogether. Rather, Paul is criticizing the use of these systems by brethren to resolve disputes between brethren. Paul himself exercised the rights to trial he enjoyed as a Roman citizen (Acts 18:12ff.; 25:16). Thus, the problem is not resort to the system for any reason, but resort to the system when God has prescribed an alternative procedure for resolving disputes (Matt. 18:15-20).

Stated differently, the problem is not the courts, but the Christians. As one writer has noted:

Lawsuits are the world's way of settling disputes legally. The issue here is not the civil right of brethren to sue one another at law, but the teaching of Christ regarding the settling of disputes between brethren. All that is legal before civil authority is not lawful for the people of God.1

Paul seems to echo the notion that the problem was not the courts themselves, but the Christians at Corinth when he writes that the courts were being used by brethren to wrong and cheat each other (vs. 8).

The Scriptures implicitly acknowledge the right, indeed the obligation, to submit to the judicial system to accomplish a divorce when a divorce is permitted by the Scriptures (compare Matt. 19:1-9 with Rom. 13:1-7 and 1 Pet. 1:13-14). This must be so where the Scriptures require submission to the lawful authorities, and the authorities regulate marriage and divorce. This does not authorize Christians to divorce for any reason permitted by governing authorities. Instead, this simply means that where Scriptural authority for a divorce is present, Christians must accomplish the divorce through the procedures promulgated by governing authorities.

Similarly, Christians subject to criminal prosecution, however innocent, must submit to the criminal justice system governing their prosecution (Rom. 13:1-7, 1 Pet. 1:13-14).

Note that litigation between believer and non-believer is not prohibited. Nonetheless, the right of a Christian to avail himself of the judicial process against non-Christians is still governed by all other Scriptures governing Christian conduct. Freedom to sue is not a license to behave in an unchristian-like manner.

There are even situations where resort to civil court between brethren may not only be permissible, but appropriate. For instance, as brother Kimbrough writes about situations where liability insurance is applicable:

[Imagine] A brother is injured by the negligence of another and the one who causes the injury acknowledges his fault. He is willing to grant his brother full compensation, but must go to law to obtain it.2

Of course, in most such instances, the offending brother need only admit fault, and inform his insurance carrier. Occasionally, a lawsuit will be required when the insurance company refuses to pay what the injured party believes is necessary to compensate him for his losses. In such cases, the lawsuit may not violate Scripture where there is no animosity or gamesmanship between the brethren.

Despite the exceptions, impermissible litigation between Christians is not to be taken likely. Paul describes this conduct as shameful (vs. 5) and an utter failure (vs. 7).

Instead of litigation, Paul suggests two alternatives: (1) submit the dispute to other brethren (vss. 2-5), or (2) accept wrong (vs. 7).

Simply put, brethren should not sue each other, but should seek the counsel of an impartial third brother to help resolve the dispute.

Christians who sue one another have a bigger problem with Christ than they do with each other. For Paul does not give the Corinthians a new commandment, but rather simply echoes Christ who said for Christians to seek a third Christian to help resolve disputes (Matt. 18:15-20).

Nor did Paul say anything new when he suggested that it is better for Christians to accept loss instead of suing one another because Christ Himself said:

"But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also."

Matthew 5:39-40.

Christians who ignore the words of Christ and Paul forget what it means to be a Christian (see John 15:1-11; 1 John 2:3-11). As Kimbrough said, "Lawsuits are the world's way of settling disputes legally," but not the way of Christians or the church. A brother who sues another brother shames himself (1 Cor. 6:5), is an "utter failure," (i.e., defeated already), and shames the church by taking the dispute to unbelievers (see 1 Cor. 6:6). For what must the world think of us when it sees us behave so poorly, when we claim to love one another?

Sometimes litigiousness can be a collective problem, especially in the realm of church splits. Such a problem arose in 1902 when the church in Newbern, Tennessee split over the introduction of an organ into the worship service. Once brethren decided to split, the next issue became who was entitled to the congregation's building, the "pro-organ" brethren, or the "anti-organ" brethren"? Answering this question, David Lipscomb counseled the anti-organ brethren against going to law over the building when he wrote:

The strife and contention of a lawsuit will result in a spiritual declension and loss that cannot be compensated for by any pecuniary of property gains. It would be better and more in harmony with the spirit of the religion of Christ to quietly and earnestly protest against the wrong, but bear it for Christ's sake and seek another place of worship and diligently and meekly strive to build up a faithful church in Newbern.3

Brother Lipscomb appears to have given wise counsel. When we are wronged, we should stop and reflect before acting, and then seek to act in a manner befitting our calling. Remembering, all the while, that Christ, our example, "who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously." (1 Peter 2:23). Therefore, let us remember Christ in "whatever [we] do in word or deed," including dispute resolution and litigation, and "do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through Him." (Col. 3:17)


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Endnotes

1 Earl Kimbrough, "Lawsuits Among Brethren," Christ and Culture at Corinth: Lessons From First Corinthians 118 (Florida College, February 5-8, 1996).

2 Ibid. at 119.

3 Ibid. at 124.

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A Letter to Friends Contemplating An Unscriptural Divorce by Randy Baker

Dear Husband and Wife:

Words poorly express the pain and disappointment I feel about your news to get a divorce. I cannot imagine going through the stress and trauma that must be associated with your ordeal. Emotions run strong during times like these, however it is important that we guide our footsteps with a much more dependable standard than our feelings. What would God’s guidance be in this situation?

Matthew 19:3 - “And there came unto him Pharisees, trying him, and saying, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4And he answered and said, Have ye not read, that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, 5and said, For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh? 6So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 7They say unto him, Why then did Moses command to give a bill of divorcement, and to put her away? 8He saith unto them, Moses for your hardness of heart suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it hath not been so.”

1Corinthians 7:10 – “But unto the married I give charge, yea not I, but the Lord, That the wife depart not from her husband 11(but should she depart, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband); and that the husband leave not his wife.” (It seems to me that the parenthetical statement here is closely related to Matthew 19:8 above because 1 Cor.7:10 has already stated that the Lord gives charge to depart not. The extra admonition only seems to be needed because hardness of heart could come. I do not gain a lot of confidence that the Lord is satisfied with divorce based on this one verse even though many use it for that. RKB)

Malachi 2:16 – “For I hate putting away, saith Jehovah, the God of Israel,”

For the two of you to be wanting, or accepting, to end the marriage things have not been as they should be.

Ephesians 5:25 – “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it; 26that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, 27that he might present the church to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28Even so ought husbands also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his own wife loveth himself: 29for no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as Christ also the church”; (If the problem is here husband, please repent, ask your wife’s forgiveness, and pray for God’s forgiveness. Put things back into their proper perspective and work with your wife to get back together as God states in 1Cor 7:11. RKB)

Ephesians 5:22 -“Wives, be in subjection unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, being himself the saviour of the body. 24But as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their husbands in everything. (If the problem is here, then wife please repent, ask your husband’s forgiveness, and pray for God’s forgiveness. Then put your life in its proper order be reconciled to your husband as God says. RKB)

1 Peter 3:7 – “Ye husbands, in like manner, dwell with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of life; to the end that your prayers be not hindered. (If you have not lived with your wife in the way that she needs you to then repent, pray, get busy. Don’t give up. RKB)

Matthew 19:9 – “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and he that marrieth her when she is put away committeth adultery.” (There is nothing in scripture to indicate that either one of you, husband and wife, would ever have any godly reason to go on and marry another because fornication was not the cause for this divorce.)

These are just some of the things that God has to say about married life, and you are well aware of what they say, but sometimes it is good to hear them again. God’s (and Satan’s) viewpoint on your decisions is really what matters. My emotional response, your relatives’ thoughts, your church friends’ advice, and your psychologists’ coaching are not going to help you get to heaven if their advice doesn’t match up perfectly with God’s will.

John 12:48 – “He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my sayings, hath one that judgeth him: the word that I spake, the same shall judge him in the last day. 49For I spake not from myself; but the Father that sent me, he hath given me a commandment, what I should say, and what I should speak.”

Both of you have much of your lives left to live if the Lord wills. One of the results of giving up on your marriage is sentencing each other to the rest of your lives fighting higher levels of temptation than you really had to. Your marriage is supposed to be a tool for helping each other get to heaven – is your decision going to do that for each of you?

Please reconsider your actions, in light of God’s will, and do the right thing. Think eternity, think judgment day, don’t think in the modern wisdom of the people that we live among. This is too important of a topic to deal with on only emotional terms.

I pray that you will receive these thoughts in the way intended. Gal 4:16 So then am I become your enemy, by telling you the truth?

1 John 5:2 – “Hereby we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and do his commandments.”

I love you both,

Your Friend in Christ

A Letter to Friends Contemplating An Unscriptural Divorce by Randy Baker

Dear Husband and Wife:

Words poorly express the pain and disappointment I feel about your news to get a divorce. I cannot imagine going through the stress and trauma that must be associated with your ordeal. Emotions run strong during times like these, however it is important that we guide our footsteps with a much more dependable standard than our feelings. What would God’s guidance be in this situation?

Matthew 19:3 - “And there came unto him Pharisees, trying him, and saying, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? 4And he answered and said, Have ye not read, that he who made them from the beginning made them male and female, 5and said, For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh? 6So that they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. 7They say unto him, Why then did Moses command to give a bill of divorcement, and to put her away? 8He saith unto them, Moses for your hardness of heart suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it hath not been so.”

1Corinthians 7:10 – “But unto the married I give charge, yea not I, but the Lord, That the wife depart not from her husband 11(but should she depart, let her remain unmarried, or else be reconciled to her husband); and that the husband leave not his wife.” (It seems to me that the parenthetical statement here is closely related to Matthew 19:8 above because 1 Cor.7:10 has already stated that the Lord gives charge to depart not. The extra admonition only seems to be needed because hardness of heart could come. I do not gain a lot of confidence that the Lord is satisfied with divorce based on this one verse even though many use it for that. RKB)

Malachi 2:16 – “For I hate putting away, saith Jehovah, the God of Israel,”

For the two of you to be wanting, or accepting, to end the marriage things have not been as they should be.

Ephesians 5:25 – “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it; 26that he might sanctify it, having cleansed it by the washing of water with the word, 27that he might present the church to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28Even so ought husbands also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his own wife loveth himself: 29for no man ever hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as Christ also the church”; (If the problem is here husband, please repent, ask your wife’s forgiveness, and pray for God’s forgiveness. Put things back into their proper perspective and work with your wife to get back together as God states in 1Cor 7:11. RKB)

Ephesians 5:22 -“Wives, be in subjection unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, being himself the saviour of the body. 24But as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives also be to their husbands in everything. (If the problem is here, then wife please repent, ask your husband’s forgiveness, and pray for God’s forgiveness. Then put your life in its proper order be reconciled to your husband as God says. RKB)

1 Peter 3:7 – “Ye husbands, in like manner, dwell with your wives according to knowledge, giving honor unto the woman, as unto the weaker vessel, as being also joint-heirs of the grace of life; to the end that your prayers be not hindered. (If you have not lived with your wife in the way that she needs you to then repent, pray, get busy. Don’t give up. RKB)

Matthew 19:9 – “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and he that marrieth her when she is put away committeth adultery.” (There is nothing in scripture to indicate that either one of you, husband and wife, would ever have any godly reason to go on and marry another because fornication was not the cause for this divorce.)

These are just some of the things that God has to say about married life, and you are well aware of what they say, but sometimes it is good to hear them again. God’s (and Satan’s) viewpoint on your decisions is really what matters. My emotional response, your relatives’ thoughts, your church friends’ advice, and your psychologists’ coaching are not going to help you get to heaven if their advice doesn’t match up perfectly with God’s will.

John 12:48 – “He that rejecteth me, and receiveth not my sayings, hath one that judgeth him: the word that I spake, the same shall judge him in the last day. 49For I spake not from myself; but the Father that sent me, he hath given me a commandment, what I should say, and what I should speak.”

Both of you have much of your lives left to live if the Lord wills. One of the results of giving up on your marriage is sentencing each other to the rest of your lives fighting higher levels of temptation than you really had to. Your marriage is supposed to be a tool for helping each other get to heaven – is your decision going to do that for each of you?

Please reconsider your actions, in light of God’s will, and do the right thing. Think eternity, think judgment day, don’t think in the modern wisdom of the people that we live among. This is too important of a topic to deal with on only emotional terms.

I pray that you will receive these thoughts in the way intended. Gal 4:16 So then am I become your enemy, by telling you the truth?

1 John 5:2 – “Hereby we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and do his commandments.”

I love you both,

Your Friend in Christ

The Four Translations (author unknown)

There were four clergymen who were discussing the merits of the various translations of the Bible. One liked the King James Version because of its simple, beautiful English. Another liked the American Revised Version best because it is more literal and came nearer to the original Hebrew and Greek. Still another liked Moffat's translation because of its up-to-date vocabulary.

The fourth minister was silent. when asked to express his opinion, he replied, "I like my mother's translation best." The other three expressed surprise. They did not know that his mother had translated the Bible. But he assured them, "She translated it into life, every day of her life, and it was the most convincing translation I ever saw."

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